Sunday, October 09, 2005

Can't really think of an Apt title... Erm, boo?

Da Pacem Cordium - Give peace to our hearts. One of the many songs found in the new CD that i bought at Trumpet Praise a few weeks back entitled "Songs of Taize". Really good stuff, songs sung in English, French and latin... I simply love latin songs, stuff like Gregorian Chant. Nope, not the modern Chants with all the nonsensical stuff, but rather the original Gregorian Chants that originated with the desire to sing praise and worship to God. Gregorian Chants are basically songs sang without instruments, and usually are a-cappella in nature. I've always loved these stuff, ever since i was part of the St Andrew's Choir in Sec 1. I know i may sound alien here to many people, but i do appreciate these songs better than perhaps Hillsongs? Do not be mistaken, i'm pretty okie with Hillsongs, but i guess i find their recent albums rather "commercialized"? Perhaps i'm outgrowing all these stuff at a pace that even i myself do not know. I'm not a kid anymore that’s for sure (tho i am guilty of behaving like one many times).

And recently there's been a revival in a topic that i thought was once dead. Jachin asked me one day about whether i'm looking for a soul mate in church, and i told him quite abruptly that i wasn't an "homeland investor", that i don't think i'll be looking internally for her. And Jachin shared it in our cell gatherings of both MAD and Nomad, and the way he put it made me sound like a Pharisee.... =/ He said the main reason why i didn't think it's possible to find my soul mate in church is because i know them too well, that i know their flaws and wouldn't want to be associated with them. Ha he got it wrong. It was the other way round. This thought actually originated from a comment that one of the female members of the church made. She said that most guys in church are childish and improper in behaviour and therefore she's "looking outwards". Well, to a certain extent she's right - we are a playful bunch. But the truth is she's focusing on the flaws. I felt like telling her to look at the mirror and see what is been reflected. If it's any holier, then she has the right to judge. But i'm pretty sure she doesn't, therefore though i'm not really offended by the commend, i found it pretty hypocritical. Perhaps it's in us humans to demand what's best for us without thinking of return the same back. During the week i read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris, and he mentioned in the book that when we look for a mate, do we do it out of selfish need, be it emotional or physical? But as Christians, we must remember that our main objective, our very pursue for romance must be rooted in pleasing God; for any other aim would ultimately lead to disappointment. And one more point he added opened my eyes- that our romantic pursue must be one that seeks to bless our mate. It sounds cliché, but i guess it does echo a timeless truth, that love is patient and love is kind, it does not covert, but always seeks to give. Hard truth, compare to what we hear on the radios nowadays. And for my infamous statement made was more of a minor counter fire, that if all of the females in church shares the same view that their potential mates must be near - perfect, and unable to accept flaws (added with the increasing problem of their inability in the culinary aspect) , then i say the guys in church are pretty much doomed. =O No, i'm not a male chauvinist, i just don't like it when people say how much they want in a mate, yet refuse to look at themselves and ask what they can give instead of receiving.

Okie okie, i admit that there's only a few "good-looking, rich and intellectual" guys in church, but i am very sure that there's plenty of nice guys around who are faithful, true, and caring. You just need to know them better (i'm sure many of them are rather shy. ha.) It's time i guess when we stop looking at the external and all the "bless me" and see what really mattered. Let grace abound in our love. =)

3 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

haha. i'm here to defend myself. well, it was just a casual comment about the guys being childish. haha. yup, deep down i do know that u all are just playful and are really a good bunch. =D don't take it personally or seriously ya. =D and also, i'm super disappointed.. how can u think that i'm a self-seeking person?! haha. u better apologise! =p hahahha!

1:55 PM  
Blogger DoMiniC said...

Ha i know who you are by the way you talk... And dun worry it's not you. It was someone else who made this serious comment that deserves to be shot.

3:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey! stumbled upon this space i wanna add my two cents worth.'good looking, rich and intellectual'?
i rather faithful, true and caring.
and i rather humility and love for God rather than 'near-perfection'. that's crazy isn't it. we're all no where near that and it'll be rather scary to meet a near perfect person.
heh. =)
haha, to console you, i think the remark by whoever it was was just made in zest and not to be taken seriously.

10:09 PM  

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