Love is in the air..... Gas gas gas!

"Endure hardship with us like a good soldier of Christ Jesus. No one serving as a soldier gets involved in civilian affairs—he wants to please his commanding officer."
2 Tim 2:3-4

Okie the title's pretty lame. But since it's Valentine's and since my friend popped me a question very recently about my love life, i felt that i had to type something here about it. Honest sharings that i hope may encourage others...

It all began when a friend of mine asked me regarding a rather interesting event where God seemed to be leading me in the area of my love-life. It was kinda funny, but at the end of the day i felt really weird. Firstly, even though (yes it's true) that i still hope for a relationship, no matter how impossible it may seem, i realised that the most dangerous thing in this aspect is to play God. Everything has it's divine order, and seldom do we have the patience to wait and see sometimes. I learnt this lesson the hard way, knowing that if we try to be funny and rush head first into such a sortie, we only get ourselves burnt beyond recognition. It's true - it's hard to play by the rules, it's hard to play by God's timeline, but unless and until we do it, we're just risking ourslevs in uncharted territory. We may get what we want, but often enough what we want is not the best that we can have.

And so in reply to my friend's "how's your love life" question, i replied...

"That's a civilian event for now, and i'm not supposed to get invloved with it." Quoting 2 Tim 2:3-4

Friend: "How can your love life be a civilian affair to be neglected?"

Dom: "I consider it nothing man, at least not yet. Now's the time to please my Commanding officer (Jesus)"

And at the very moment i was quite surprised myself for saying that? It seems God's dealing with this issue has finally brought forth some fruits, and now i can safely say that i don't struggle with this issue anymore.

Haha the joys of singlehood comes in many forms, firstly i relaized that i'm richer than most of my platoon mates who are attached. My bank account in constantly in abundance. Secondly, i thank God the most for my freedom of time. I can do whatever i want with my time, with no relationship commitments at all. Thirdly, i don't really think i'm ready for one. Don't get me wrong, as i mentioned before, i really hope that one day i'll settle down with a nice wife, have kids running around the house, a nice cosy roof over our head etc. But duty calls for greater endeavours, while i'm still in the prime of my youth. It's a choice, in the Bible, when Israel went out to war against her enemies, they were told by the priest that if anyone has been pledged to a woman and not marrried her, He ought to be let home, or he may die in battle and someone else marry her. Even though it's a metaphor to speak now in modern terms, i still want to march out with the army to fight - there are still many Hitties, Amorites, Canaanites, Perizites, Hivites, and Jebusites to be put to the sword. If you get what i mean, if not, ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to see the vastness of the battle before each and every one of us.

And yeah, i believe what most guys struggle with in terms of singlehood is the yearning for companionship, someone to assure the very importance of his existence, that he is still needed and wanted. Now, as much as i've thought about it, i feel we're missing out on someone great here. I've seen my fair share of broken relationships, and i've come to understand that no one's perfect. There's is only one person that can be the greatets lover of all - God. "Cliche man!" some may say. But until and unless you've tasted and see that the Lord is good, you wouldn't know a single bit of that feeling, that His love is beyond compare. Only and until then can we truly function in a human relationship. A relationship without God will amount to much problems, especially for our generation where fidelity is not so much of a concern for many.

And so on this very Valentine's day (which origins are Christian, until the abuse of men...), let us remember what the greatest lover in history said "Love one another, and by this all men shall know you are my disciples.". Let us remember not the rose or chocolate, but the blood stained cross that bids us to come and experience the greatest love we could ever experience.

I'll be alone at home while many feast and feel that fuzzy feeling in them burn and rage.

I'll definately be alone...

... but never lonely. =)